September 2010
1 post
Resurrecting SWD
After what’s been a ridiculously long hiatus, I finally have time to update. August was filled with apartment hunting (a seemingly impossible task in NYC, especially if you have neighborhood, price and size constraints), a trip home, work retreat to Rhode Island, and then the actual moving into the new apartment (which is AMAZING and on the LES). During all of which, I managed to still go...
August 2010
2 posts
Date #3
Round 3 with my USC frat boy happened the night before my trip home… we kept it low-key and picked a restaurant near my place for dinner. The only flaw in him thus far is his lack of assertion. For example, he asked me to go for dinner, then asked me to pick a place by me… easy enough, since I live in the village, but I asked what he was in the mood for… “anything”,...
Date 2 and (gasp) Date 3
Maryland boy and I ended up getting together on Saturday night. One of my friends who works in advertising had two extra tickets to a Heineken promotion party, so I decided to take him to that. He met me outside my apartment and gave me a kiss as a hello, then we headed to the Hudson where the party was. I was expecting an event of maybe 200 people… I was wrong. It was being held in a...
July 2010
6 posts
Success.
Him: 23, just finished 1st year of law school, dirty blonde hair, gorgeous smile
After some short message strings back and forth, we decided to meet for drinks last night. I chose a slightly hipster outfit, complete with my riding boots, since we were just going to a laidback beer bar. He was wearing some dark wash jeans and a polo shirt with initials on it. Later on, I asked him what it stood...
Reconnection with the Soho Jew after 8 months &...
After texting back and forth for almost a month, I finally hooked Soho Jew into asking me out for something somewhat legitimate, rather than just hooking up at his apartment. It’s an odd situation, as we had hooked up for 5 months, so to back-step towards dating would be quite weird. That said, I wasn’t ready to settle right back into strictly hooking up, especially knowing...
Spoke too soon...
What: Date #2
Where: Williamsburg, Hare Field Road (bar)
Running late, due to several last minute outfit changes and construction on the Williamsburg Bridge, started my evening off in a somewhat frazzled state, not to mention I had no clue where the bar was and no smart phone to help me. Anyways, I finally found it, and him sitting in a booth near the back. Like a perfect gentleman, he...
Someone to possibly date?
Although I made an okcupid profile to reconnect with the Soho Jew, I’ve realized there are a lot of cute, eligible men on there. At any rate, there’s a guy that I’d been messaging back and forth for almost a month, and finally, after our schedules constantly coinciding, we decided to meet up. I had been hesitant about it all day, mainly because it was a Sunday, he wanted to...
Back from a weekend of living the Hamptons high...
**Disclaimer: This post might seem a bit pretentious, but it is NOT how I live my day-to-day life…yet**
One of my oldest friends, who moved up here about a month ago for a 7 month architecture internship, was invited out to the Hamptons for the holiday weekend. He was asked by an older gay {power} couple, one of whom is a partner in a neighboring architecture firm. Someone else was...
June 2010
9 posts
“He may not be my soul mate, but a girl’s gotta eat.”
– Phoebe from Friends
Boston Boy
Several hours ago, I returned from a brief trip to Boston, in order to:
a) see the city for the 1st time
b) visit a boy I met several months age at a concert, then hung out with at the after-party.
The boy had friended me several days after we met, and that night had been a very innocent one (see: http://swdnyc.tumblr.com/post/428595007/cd-release-party-and-a-blind-date). We had chatted...
Fuck.
Blind date last night….
Details:
Online platform: Free {legit} dating website
Stats: 22, Finance, Gramercy
Place: Mercbar (or lounge), SoHo
Drinks: 3 (discounting my glass of wine prior) vodka martinis
Post-bar: Jaunt to Wash Sq. Park (who the fuck knows why), to my apt and upstairs, changing from my date outfit into an unbecoming towel, walking him outside apt (unit, not building) in...
Drunk Dancing TONIGHT!!
After spending a great 3.5 days in the Berkshires (story from that, to come), I’m back in the city for a night out with J, my good friend who just moved up here, and her friend. Dancing is on the agenda, and who knows what else. Currently being uber girly and drinking wine, curling my hair, and listening to some old school Whitney Houston…
...
Why am I not surprised?
Follow up on coworker that I’d been emailing/flirting with….
Well, the emailing ceased immediately after I told him we’d “been discovered”, which obviously raised a red flag, but then it started up again a day later and I somewhat dismissed my suspicions. 2 of my coworkers said they thought he had a girlfriend or was engaged, but neither of them really knew. I...
Advice, PLEASE!
At work yesterday, something happened and I’m honestly not sure how to go about dealing with it…
A 37-year-old guy, who works in a department separate from mine, is completely classless, crass, and all-around not someone I prefer to associate with. Generally, I steer clear and keep him at arms’ length. One of his characteristics includes the fact that he can’t speak a...
Last night…
Hit on an extremely tall, cute guy last night. Exchanged numbers and made plans for coffee. Added me as a facebook friend today.
Danced with/made out with a guy, whom all I remember was wearing a red, plaid shirt. Physical looks, unknown…
Made a 2 am stop at my grocery store for some pepperoni Digiorno and ranch dressing… nights always seem to result in either...
Dipping my pen in company ink (sort of)
Last Wednesday, an incessant chain of short, witty, and entertaining emails started between me and a guy from the third floor. Someone who I’d met a couple of times, but never actually held a conversation with (unless I drunkenly did at the company Christmas party). All I really knew is that he’s the IT dept head, young, and pretty cute.
The initial email started with me asking him...
“Wait for the FOBs, the fresh off the boats. Honestly, most of the few men in my...”
– Karen O., in response to NY Magazine asking her to give advice to women in NYC.
Hilarious or slightly depressing?
My Soho Jewish boy, who I hooked up with for the duration of Fall, is apparently on OkCupid now… how do I know? He was matched with my friend.
Depressing because:
a) He is apparently looking for something long-term and obviously didn’t want it with me
Hilarious because:
a) Well, I don’t feel like that needs explanation
Activity tonight—> making a profile compatible...
May 2010
7 posts
The Week Thus Far
Monday:
Cancelled date #4 with Frenchie… told him I wasn’t feeling well… was actually trying to avoid any post-date hooking up that would amount to more than making out.
Went to a goodbye dinner/drink session for a Canadian friend who just graduated from New School and is getting kicked out of the country now. Sad day. One of the few cool, fun, and sweet people I’ve...
Drinks with a Williamsburg boy in lieu of my...
Ever since Easter, Sunday evenings have consisted of half-price sushi with Jamie and N. It’s pretty much one of the highlights of my week, as the fancy rolls are delicious AND $5, plus eating on the grass in Union Square Park when it’s a nice, breezy night is so relaxing. Unfortunately, Jamie flew back home this weekend, to see some friends graduating, and N lost his wallet yesterday...
“Every girl should have an affair with a French man. I highly, highly recommend...”
– Kelly Cutrone
I’m taking this as a sign to go on a 4th date with my Parisian tomorrow night.
MILK open bar party and an attempt at a romantic...
My evening started as being my bff’s plus one to a launch party at MILK studio with an open bar. Dangerous; very dangerous. It’s not all that often that I find myself at these parties, but they’re always fun to go to, and typically laden with fashion-savvy gorgeous (and 75% gay) men. This event, by far, had the HIGHEST amount of attractive men I’ve ever seen in one...
Spring Fever
I feel that my blind dating has exponentially increased over the past month, or maybe even two. Not sure if it’s due to the weather prompting me to be out more, as opposed to the Winter when I (embarrassingly) had several spans of time when I didn’t leave my apartment for at least 30 or so hours. So, since it’s nearly unheard of to be asked out in “real life”,...
Online Dating
After a blind date with a 27 year old European finance guy last night, I’ve decided SWD needs to be resurrected. On occasion, I get bored (okay, like every other week), and post an ad on c-list, asking if anyone, within acceptable age range and proximity, would like to grab drinks or dinner. 3/4 of the responses aren’t worth glancing at, but I know I can always expect something along...
April 2010
1 post
Coke > Me, apparently
During the 10-day partying extravaganza that happened while J & I’s best friend was visiting from England, I met and hung out with a boy twice. He’s in his third year at NYU law school, has a great body, and lives several blocks away. Good on paper… and, well, I’ll just explain…
Meeting #1: A week and 1/2 ago, on a Friday evening, the three of us embarked on a...
March 2010
3 posts
My Personal 5 Year High School Reunion
On Thursday night, after tipsily returning home from an open-bar art show, as well as a White Stripes CD release party, I hopped on Facebook and saw that my HS boyfriend had posted pictures of Times Square only minutes before. I messaged him “you’re in NYC and didn’t tell me?! ps- (my phone #)”. When I woke up the next morning, he had text me back, saying that he was in...
Tapping into my hipster side and a second blind...
I think I made up for the slow Winter months in a 5 day going-out binge that ended on Saturday. After 3 days out, I planned on staying in Friday… until I went to happy hour and got the itch to be social. Jamie had some friends in town and invited me to go to a BK bar with them that night. After some debate (because I knew it would be a sloppy, sloppy night and I had work Saturday am), and...
CD Release Party and a Blind Date
Tuesday night, Jenn and I switched up our typical routine of hanging bar-side in our neighborhood, and instead went to the LES for the CD release concert of our current favorite band, Locksley. We bought tickets about three weeks ago, so needless to say, the excitement had been building for quite some time. We knew there was no way the evening could’ve been a fail, considering the band...
February 2010
11 posts
Slothalicious
I’ve more or less spent the past 36 hours indoor due to major snowstorm #3, which has already dumped around 18 inches in the city. Other than baking chocolate chip banana bread, watching Dawson’s Creek, and doing a little reading, not too much excitement has happened.
Craigslist guy- yes, I was still talking with him up to last night, in hopes that I’d be able to see him...
Just as predicted
I was assuming that I wouldn’t hear from Craigslist guy again, ever, but one of my good friends from college, who’s great with reading people and very straight-forward, predicted he’d contact me sometime within the next week. As it usually turns out, she was right. Wednesday afternoon I came home from work to find this email:
“Hey, how are you? I thought...
Chatroulette
Has anyone heard of this website yet? It’s similar to Skype, but it’s complete strangers that you randomly get connected to. Within seconds, you’re staring at someone from literally any part of the world, and if you decide you don’t want to talk with them, you can simply press “next” and move onto the next person. Jenn and I probably wasted about an hour on...
Vodka, the cause & solution to all problems
After spending far too long throwing myself a pity party (let’s be honest- any time mourning over someone who’s basically a stranger, is too much time), I decided sitting in my apartment wasn’t the best plan for the evening. My fashion-world-immensed favorite couple invited me to a party for one of their company’s (Jamie’s). Nick, his bf and one of my bff’s,...
Ugh. But should I really be surprised?
After cancelling last night, I was already skeptical. No word from him about our “big plans” that he himself made, so I text him several hours ago saying “Hey, just wondering if we were still on for tonight.” Nothing. Ugh, fuck men- seriously. I’m trying not to take it personally, because I know I didn’t do anything wrong, but why can’t he just man up...
Sketch
Ugh. After a happy hour marg with friends and a glass of cheap Trader Joe’s Chardonnay, I’m afraid I’m resorting to Tumblr to vent about Craigslist guy, in hopes to relax enough to shelve my insecurities with it for tonight, if not forever.
As if enough red flags haven’t been raised, more have sequentially popped up in the last 24 hours. For starters, when we first...
Date #4, Midtown "nap" during snowpocalypse 2010
As you may have seen on the news, NYC is currently experiencing “Snowpocalypse 2010”. When the public schools cancelled everything today, yesterday afternoon, we too cancelled all programs. I planned on being lazy and taking a day off, but annoyingly enough, I woke up at 6:45 and decided to go in rather than waste vacation time. Craigslist guy sent me the routine good morning email,...
3 consecutive dates? Well this hasn't happened...
Craigslist guy (I seriously need to come up with a better name for him) and I met at Amity Hall for happy hour last night. Since I’d gone to Midtown the other two times, I thought I’d suggest a venture down here for him, plus I feel like The Village trumps middle Manhattan at night. Not only did I choose Amity because it’s a one minute walk for me, or because it happens to...
Shit.
I kind of like Craigslist guy. A lot.
We met at 3:00 near his office, where he showed up toting a bag of 2 Magnolia cupcakes, red velvet for me and vanilla for himself. He suggested Le Parker Meridien hotel for the cocktails to complement our cupcakes. I ordered a nice glass of riesling and he had a hoegaarden. We were close, though not too close, on a loungey type love seat. A little over an...
So THIS is what "dating" is in NYC?
As you might be able to tell from other posts, I am a fan of Missed Connections on Craiglist. They’re fun, entertaining, and occasionally I’ll post on there. Well, on Tuesday morning I ended up in a train car with 3 equally good-looking men (GREAT way to start the day!), so that night I put up a post titled “Do Business Men Read Missed Connections?” I received a few...
A bit louder than planned...
*Jenn spilled beer on my legs*
J to Howie: Can we get some napkins?
K (my boyishly cute bartender whom I’ve been crushing on for 4 months): *looking at J* Ah did you get her wet?
Me: *looking down at my legs, wiping off the beer* you can get me wet (in reference to K, but meant for only J to hear…)
*I finish cleaning the spot and look up*
K: *looking right at me, slightly...
January 2010
10 posts
"Yeah, we're with the band..."
Despite the fact that Jenn & I went out on Monday to celebrate her birthday, we decided we should resume our Tuesday tradition as well, since we took a hiatus last week. Jenn, much more the music guru than me, discovered a new band on Pandora, googled them, and found out they were playing a show on the Lower East Side. After checking out one of their music videos, seeing the undoubtedly...
Jenn & I just bid farewell to 2 (amazingly)...
“I’ve been told by doctors and surgeons that I have the energy of ten men who...”
– Gary Busey (via david)
Dinner & Drinks With The British Banker
After getting a text from the BB on Monday, announcing he was back stateside for the week, we spoke for a bit and made plans to grab drinks and go to dinner on Wednesday. I met him down in TriBeCa near the train, a bit nervously, as I wasn’t sure I would recognize him since the only two times we’d been together before, I’d been drunk. Luckily he spotted me first, though I...
Weekend Happenings
Splendid weekend it was, filled with bar-hopping, friends, my very attractive corporate lawyer resurfacing, and drunkenly doing a swim-a-thon for the Masters team where I work…
Friday:
Jenn and I planned on going out since I didn’t have to be at work until 12 on Saturday (a nice change from my usual 8 am start). I got a text from my bgff (g=gay), who recently moved up here to pursue...
Saturday follow-up
I mentioned that in between going to BK and stopping by my bar, I ran into a guy on the street who recognized me from my home town. After we talked for a few minutes, he asked if I wanted to grab dinner on Saturday, so I said sure, not even THINKING he was asking in a date sort of way… especially considering our age difference. At any rate, I came home after work for a quick glass of wine...
Watch
Disappointing game, compensating post-game, and a...
As a UT alumni, I was more than excited for the game last night. Originally, it was supposed to be Jenn and I going to OTW, hanging with our fav bartender, and rooting on the Longhorns. However, J didn’t feel well, so I ended up going to BK to watch it with one of my bff’s and his boyfriend. A bottle of wine and lots of cheering later, we realized it was a lost cause and threw in...
Bringing in 2010, Part 2 (by me)
Yes, the background J gave about TN is painfully accurate, and yes, I KNEW it was going to be a disappointing night for him from the moment he text me on 12/21 asking if he could join for NYE. Nevertheless, there was absolutely no way to exclude him from our plans when we would have to trapse past his floor on our way out for the night. During the pre-gaming, I had stepped into my room to fix my...
Bringing in 2010, Part 1 (from a guest author)
Hello SWD followers! I’m SW’s roommate “J”, & thus the witness to most of her escapades. She’s at work on this chilly Saturday, and I’m home with nothing to do, so she asked me if I’d like to do a “guest blog” about our New Years Eve. Here we go…
SW’s friend “A” was visiting from Texas for the week, and New Years Eve was to be her last night in NYC. Of course, we couldn’t disappoint. Although...