Follow up on coworker that I’d been emailing/flirting with….

Well, the emailing ceased immediately after I told him we’d “been discovered”, which obviously raised a red flag, but then it started up again a day later and I somewhat dismissed my suspicions.  2 of my coworkers said they thought he had a girlfriend or was engaged, but neither of them really knew.  I wanted to ask him, but the idealistic side of me thought “well, maybe he WAS engaged, but it tragically ended recently and me bringing it up would be detrimental to him.”  Silly, I know.  Monday morning he starts emailing me around 8ish, then tells me he’s in the lobby and would come say hi, but doesn’t want to disturb me.  We went back and forth, I told him I was there alone and he should come down for a visit.  Well, as soon as I said that, my boss walks in and her and I start talking about work-related weekend things.  2 minutes later, he comes through the door, then beelines straight through and out the other door, then starts messing with a computer out there, acting like he was doing work.  I let him stand out there for about 15 minutes, then decided I’d at least stick my head out and say hi.  Well, that turned into a 20 minute conversation, which wasn’t all that flirtatious, but he definitely stood closer than need be.  For the first time, I actually had a good look at him and wow, his body is great.  He’s tall, maybe 6’2”, has the perfect amount of muscle (which isn’t a lot, in my book), and a good smile.  He did lose points for his hair being gelled in a fashion akin to Jersey Shore…. Anyways, that was the face-to-face interaction for the day, email ensued through the rest of the day and evening.

Tuesday, he calls me when he gets into the building just to chat, apparently.  Luckily, it was just my hilarious/oblivious coworker in there with me, so I didn’t feel awkward for being on a personal phone call.  He asked me to go to lunch around 2:30, but that was way too late, as I skipped breakfast and the night before I only had frozen vegetables since J and I’s fridge broke (oddly, not the freezer section) and I was too lazy to go get food.  I went on my own around 1:30, but told him I’d go walk with him to get something.  When we got to the restaurant, he ordered and I grabbed a diet coke from the coca-cola fridge, then I heard him say kind of quietly to the cashier “um, can you put a diet coke on my tab too, please?”.  I said “aw, you bought my diet coke? Thanks!” and very awkwardly he responds “yeah, I mean, I don’t even know why I did that…”.  I love when guys can’t simply say “of course” or “you’re welcome”, but then again, he’s not the most mature of 26-year-olds.  We sat at a table and talked while he waited for his food to be made, and conversation was fun and good, and more importantly, not flirtatious!  He grabbed his food to go and we walked back to work, where one of the 2 girls who had discovered the emailing, immediately asked me if I had just been out with S, then demanded all details.  We both agreed it was time to get down to the bottom of his relationship status.  She asked a guy who shared a cubicle with him for 6 months, and he had no clue.  Apparently guys can be great work friends and not really know a single thing about another.  Then she went to a girl who has been working here for a long time, knows the ins and outs of what’s going on, and she confirmed that yes, he is engaged, and will be getting married next year.  Fabulous.  I emailed him right away with “Interesting… you’re engaged?  Cool.”  Had I waited a few more minutes, I could’ve come up with something better like “Am I going to be invited to the wedding?  Just wondering, because I’ve yet to get a ‘save the date’ card”.  Oh well.  4 hours later, 2 of them spent by getting happy with some beer in West Village, I came home and nothing, so of course, I emailed him again and said “Well, will you at least confirm that it’s true?” He redponds with “haha, who told you?”  Good lord, that is not going to be a good marriage.